It’s our five year anniversary this month (HOLLA), and we’re honestly happier than we’ve ever been. We’ve learned A LOT in the past five years – from how to communicate, to what frozen foods at Trader Joe’s are the best. Today, we’re sharing the five biggest things we’ve learned in the past five years (even though we could do a whole blog on the five frozen Trader Joe’s foods that’ll help your marriage).
To quote Kendrick Lamar – ‘sit down, be humble’. It’s so easy in any relationship, but especially marriage, to want to be right. But something we’ve really worked on, is trying to understand the other person, especially when we have disagreements, instead of trying to be right.
Your circle defines you
If there’s one thing I believe in, it’s that who you’re friends with, determines so much of your life. David and I have really worked to build a great circle of friends that love us, share similar beliefs and values, and make us better.
You’re not your job
We both have jobs that we love, and it’s easy to get caught up in work. One of the most valuable lessons we’ve learned, is to not define ourselves by what we do for work, but who we are.
Allow people the space to change
I’m such a different person than I was when David and I got married. I was a bartender and an intern at a church – both very different jobs than running this business and travelling so much. David was a full time college student. Change is good – it’s healthy. Giving people the space to grow, and change, and doing it together is the best.
Prioritize new experiences
This one might not apply to everyone, but for us, new experiences are key. We both thrive on trying new things, going to new places, and building new memories. One of our favorite parts of the year, is every January, we sit down, and dream up all the places we want to go the next year.